It’s Valentine’s day! For most people out there that are single, those are the words that they hate hearing.
The day is often one of joy or bitterness, depending on your relationship status, but sometimes people can be a bit too over-the-top with their romantic celebrations. It can often lead those of us that are without a partner to feel lonelier than we already do.
So, while many people are doing something to celebrate the day with their significant other, I thought I’d come here and share with you a few tips to try and make the day more bearable for you. Just because you’re not in a relationship, it doesn’t mean you’re alone!
Enjoy the single life!
Something that people in relationships often say to their friends is that they should enjoy being single while they still can. It’s one of the most annoying things to hear, especially from someone that has the thing that you desperately want.
That doesn’t mean they’re wrong though.
If you’re not in a relationship and, for whatever reason, that doesn’t look like it will change anytime soon, it can be good to find reasons why being single is a benefit to you. Although it may not outweigh your desires to have a partner, it can help make being without one a little more bearable.
Make a note of some of the positives for being single and remind yourself of them whenever your mood starts to drop. This is a great way to keep yourself from getting upset long after Valentine’s day has passed. Just try not to think about them too much when you do end up in a relationship.
With the consumerist society that we live in today, most of the hype surrounding February 14th is related to the purchasing of gifts for your special someone. There’s no reason why you can’t be your own Valentine if you’re single and just buy something for yourself.
Perhaps there’s a new video game or book that you’ve been eyeing up but refrained from buying to save money. Use the day as an excuse to take the plunge and treat yourself, after all, you only live once.
You don’t even have to buy a gift to make yourself feel special. Have an extra glass of wine in the evening or order in your favourite takeaway. Do something that you know always cheers you up and you’ll find that the day doesn’t feel so bad. You can worry about the consequences of all those calories another day.
Make a move
It’s never a good idea to try and hook up with someone for the sake of the day, but if there’s a guy or girl that you’ve had your eye on for a while, it could be the best time to finally tell them how you feel.
These things are always tricky, especially because we set ourselves up to fail in our heads before we’ve even tried to ask them out. However, you never know the outcome unless you give it a try, and even if you don’t get the response you want, it might just be for the best. You won’t spend the next two years pining over that guy from the office because now you know he isn’t into you.
Just make sure you put some thought into it before you make your move, though. If they’re already in a relationship, then sharing your feelings is likely to be a mistake. Try and find someone who can be fairly impartial to the situation that you can still trust, and ask them for advice.
Surround yourself with friends
People in relationships often let their friendships fall to the wayside because they spend so much time with their significant other. Being single is the perfect time to make close bonds and forms lasting friendships that will still be around once you meet your partner.
It’s likely that you’re not the only person in your social circles who’s alone on Valentine’s day. If it’s convenient for everyone, try meeting up and doing something together to pass the time and forget what all the couples out there are doing.
Being alone is never ideal if you’re struggling with being single. Even if it’s only for a short while, it’s important to try and find someone you’re close to to spend time with on Valentine’s day so that you don’t feel lonely. You’re likely to find that you’re not the only one who isn’t enjoying the single life.
Have a friend date
Despite how many couples you see out on dates on Valentine’s day, a fair number of those people aren’t actually in relationships. It’s common for friends to go out together and enjoy the day for what it is, without being romantically involved.
It can be a lot of fun to go out to dinner with someone who’s in the same boat as you – you’d be surprised at what you find out. Whether you bond over your shared hatred of all the people in relationships, or just from a mutual love of Italian food, having someone to spend time with like that can make you forget how miserable you were.
Even if you yourself aren’t feeling too down about being single on Valentine’s day, one of your close friends may well be, and an invitation to spend the day together can go a long way. Sometimes the best way to be happy is to help someone else find it first.
Once Valentine’s day is over, that it’s for the rest of the year. Despite all the hysteria surrounding the holiday, there’s no reason why this one day should be any more special than the rest if you’re in a relationship. There’s nothing truly symbolic about this one day of the year, and it’s not worth working yourself up over it just because you don’t have anyone to celebrate it with.
Whether it be next year, or the year after, or the year after that, you will meet someone someday that will be there with you for many Valentine’s days to come. Just be patient – true love is worth the wait.